Mihir
Can you recall a time or experience when you felt "unboxed", when you broke free from societal expectations or labels, seen for you and not your disability? (This could be related to a job, volunteering, living independently, attend college, etc...):
I think my first “unboxed” feeling occurred when I started attending Las Positas College in person. Embarking on this journey, I initially navigated a fully online learning environment. As in-person classes resumed, I eagerly immersed myself in campus life, joining various clubs and engaging with classmates through Discord groups. While I chose to disclose my disability to professors, I appreciated that many peers were unaware, allowing for genuine interactions. This experience fostered meaningful connections, and I am grateful to now consider some of these individuals as friends.
How did this experience of being "unboxed" make you feel? (Consider how it affected your self-esteem, sense of independence, and personal growth):
During this period, I enjoyed participating in typical teenage activities—visiting the mall, hiking, and exploring the city—which fostered a profound sense of autonomy. By 2021, obtaining my driver's license further amplified this independence, enabling me to spend more time on campus and immerse myself in enriching experiences such as musicals, lectures, field trips, and various events.
In what ways do you feel you contribute to your own life and the community? (For example, through work, volunteering, hobbies, relationships, or other activities):
While my academic commitments have made it challenging to secure the right employment, I take pride in contributing meaningfully to my family and friends. At home, I am the go-to person for assembling furniture and appliances, and I often assist my parents with grocery shopping. With friends, I cherish organizing enjoyable activities; recently, we shared a delightful dinner at Applebee's. Through the Special Olympics, I fulfill my passion for sports, actively participating in various athletic events and striving towards our collective goal of team success.
How did contributing in these ways impact your life? (Reflect on how it has shaped your identity, confidence, and interactions with others):
I take pride in being a dependable person, and knowing others can rely on me enhances my confidence and self-esteem. This assurance empowers me to offer advice and engage in discussions on topics within my areas of interest and knowledge. While I'm continually learning the nuances of social interactions, I've significantly increased my social engagement and look forward to further growth in this area.
Why do you think people with disabilities are often required to prove that they can contribute to society? (Share your thoughts on societal attitudes, expectations, and any personal experiences that relate to this):
While it is disturbing, societal perceptions have often marginalized individuals with disabilities, viewing them as dependent or incapable of contributing meaningfully. These deep-seated stereotypes stem from misconceptions and a lack of understanding about disabilities, leading to discrimination and exclusion. Society devalues the potential and contributions of individuals with disabilities. This kind of bias fosters an environment where individuals with disabilities feel compelled to continually demonstrate their capabilities to counteract negative assumptions.
For example, when interacting with distant family friends aware of my disability but unfamiliar with me personally, I often notice their surprised expressions during our intelligent conversations. Their astonishment seems to question how I can speak on the subject so fluently and accurately. This reaction likely stems from pervasive stereotypes that unjustly associate disabilities with limited intellectual capabilities. Such misconceptions contribute to the marginalization of individuals with disabilities, as society often underestimates the capabilities of individuals with disabilities.
How does this expectation to continually prove oneself affect you personally? (Consider both positive and negative impacts, including any motivation it provides or frustration it causes):
This societal expectation for me to continually prove my worth has greatly influenced my life, presenting both challenges and sources of motivation.
Positive Impacts:
Enhanced Motivation: The need to demonstrate my capabilities has fueled me to excel academically and socially.
Resilience and Adaptability: It has helped me become more resilient, teaching me to adapt and persevere.
Negative Impacts:
Emotional Strain: Sometimes this constant pressure to validate my abilities leads to stress and anxiety.
Self-Doubt: Despite a strong academic record, I frequently experience self-doubt, often attributing high grades to luck rather than my own abilities. I often have a lot of self-skepticism about my own competencies.
What message would you like to share with the world about the contributions of people with disabilities? (This can be a message of advocacy, awareness, or inspiration):
People with disabilities have unique perspectives and talents that significantly enrich our communities. Their contributions span various fields, from technology and arts to sports and advocacy, demonstrating resilience and innovation. Recognizing and valuing these contributions fosters a more inclusive society where everyone benefits from diverse experiences and skills.
With approximately 1 in 36 individuals diagnosed with autism, our society is increasingly diverse, encompassing a wide range of abilities and perspectives. It's essential to move beyond simplistic labels and recognize the unique contributions each person brings.
Is there anything else you would like to share about your journey or the importance of this exhibit? :
This exhibit provides a wonderful opportunity to celebrate the talents and contributions of individuals with disabilities. Showcasing their achievements not only inspires but also underscores the ongoing efforts toward societal inclusion and respect for all. Zachary's decision to showcase individuals with disabilities is deeply inspiring. It reflects his tenacity to challenge norms and demonstrate his capabilities to the world.
I am thrilled to be part of this exhibit, as it offers a golden chance to share my journey and, I hope, inspire others. For young families who have recently learned of their child's disability, feelings of hopelessness can be overwhelming. Perhaps my story can provide a glimmer of hope. The purpose of each individual's life is to be the best version of themselves. I am still learning and striving to be better each day.